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"No human power could deliver us, but God could and would if HE were sought"
Can't get to a meeting?? Try this : XA
ONLINE AUDIO SPEAKER MEETINGS http://xa-speakers.org/
Just use the search box and enter a name ( like "theresa" or "clancy" etc )
Barefoot Bob's site.
There you will find Bob's collection of invaluable material from
AA --Alcoholics Anonymous. Of special interest is :
"12 Steps Table Talk -- Chapter Five of the Big Book
http://www.barefootsworld.net/abc_pg60.html ( Be sure your Audio is on )
Be good to yourself and stop by Bob's place.
Inland Empire Meetings
AA Meetings ONLINE Chat
Find It Fast ( Concordance )
Word Search : Big Book
Word Search: 12 and 12
12 and 12 Step Book ONLINE
BIG BOOK Online
Purchase Audio Tapes of Speaker Meetings -- AA and Al-Anon
ENCORE Audio Archives www.12steptapes.com
HOPE for those under addiction hopetotheend.com/fellowship.html
The Grapevine www.aagrapevine.org
ATTITUDE by Chuck Swindoll http://hopetotheend.com/attitude.html
Satan's Clown http://hopetotheend.com/clown.html
by Frank Gallagher (who is now in that Big Meeting in the sky )
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change ( people, places and things)
The courage to change the things I can ( my attitude / perspective ; myself )
And the wisdom to know the difference.
The Greatest Thing in all the World http://silkworth.net/henry_drummond/hd_tablecontents.htm
Be Ye Sober
Putting on the New Man
The Man in the Glass
When you get what you want in your struggle for Self
and the world makes you king for a day
Just go to a mirror and look at yourself
And see what that man has to say.
For it isn't your parents, your children or wife
Whom judgment upon you must pass
The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the one staring back from the glass
Some people may think you're a strait-shooting chum
And call you a wonderful guy
But the man in the glass says you're only a bum
If you can't look him straight in the eye.
He's the fellow to please; never mind all the rest
For he's with you clear up to the end
And you've passed your most dangerous, difficult test
If the man in the glass is your friend.
You may fool the whole world down the pathway of life
And get pats on your back as you pass
But your final reward will be heartaches and tears
If you've cheated the man in the glass.
"One Day at a Time" http://www.mamarocks.com/one_day_at_a_time.htm
Why Me, Lord ? http://www.alighthouse.com/melord.htm
Day by Day
Just a Closer Walk with Thee http://www.mamarocks.com/closer_walk_with_thee.htm
Alcohol: Biggest Problem in America
Speaking at the Alcohol Policy XI Conference in Chicago, General [ Barry ] McCaffrey asked which drug
was causing most violence among American people. "It's alcohol," he said. "
And it all starts with the abuse of beer and wine coolers by adolescent Americans......
McCaffrey stands by his word, that alcohol is the primary drug of abuse in America,
not only for young people but for adults of all ages.
http://www.ias.org.uk/theglobe/1998issue3/czar.htm not working
"This kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting"
Matthew 17:21 and Mark 9:29
(totally abstaining from the object of compulsion.......
alcohol, drugs, pornography, gambling, sex, overeating, cigarettes, etc. etc. etc.)
More Russians die from alcohol than from war
"Half-measures avail us nothing" ...
"Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path".
"One is too many and 1,000 not enough"
God is still on the Throne And (sincere) PRAYER CHANGES THINGS
A New Day http://susie1114.com/Newday.htm
By the way, who are the Rechabites???? www.blueletterbible.org/kjv/Jer/Jer035.html
More : http://d21c.com/kiddlehopper/12stepgraphicspage1.html
to Step Chat ( various
12 step programs )
Just For Today http://hopetotheend.com/jft.html
Who are "ENABLERS" ???
Enablers are people who are too close to you, and need to release you with love. They are obsessed with everything the "other" does, always reacting.
They want to play 'savior', and give you money for your addictions. They are sometimes referred to as the ICU -- the Intensive Care Unit.
They evidence low self esteem. In that case, "pity leads to self-pity,"
Lois : When Love Is Not Enough.
They need a program also for reality-love (tough-love).
I can't ... God can... so let Him
Let Go and Let God
AL-ANON Meetings ONLINE
From time to time family members and friends of addicts will act in ways that allow the abuse to continue. These people are referred to as "enablers". Enablers may make excuses for the addict, but rarely seek help for themselves. Al-Anon and Alateen are for them.
"Dear God, Let me not take to myself nor suffer over the actions and reactions of other people.
Other adult human beings are not my responsibility,
no matter how closely their lives may be intertwined with mine.
I will not allow myself to be troubled by anyone else.
My one problem is to improve my own way of living and looking at life."
pg. 7 of Al-Anon book. ( Jan. 7 )
What about the omissions of other people ? Those too are actions ( not taken ) based upon decisions.
Relationships are two-way. Does the other person demonstrate that he or she WANTS the relationship ?
Consistently and honestly ?? Talk is cheap. Actions count.
Say what you mean, and mean what you say.
Are you just their safety net when all else fails, or are you someone they truly value and give their
genuine concern to ? Are they just a taker or a user, or are they a giver ?
Most of all ... are they working a 12 step Godly program ? No ? Then just say no.
"No human power could deliver us from our obsession, but GOD could and would ... if He were sought"
"Often a good relationship with someone we love is materially weakened because of our lack of willingness to release that person to experience his own lifestyle. Husbands and wives, brothers and sisters, parents and children, and oftentimes good friends are alienated because of a feeling of being stifled.
If there are persons with whom you would like to improve your relationships, practice the fine art of letting them know you care--but at the same time, release them to their own life experience--release with love and prayer." --One Day at a Time
Suggestions : Don't nag, correct, scold, yell, argue, use bad language, threaten, bring up the past, demean, constantly criticize, complain, murmur, put down, obsess on the "other". If you want the "other" to be more respectful, try being more respectful yourself.
Do forgive ( and say so ). Don't blame, be self-righteous, or point. No expectations.
Never let the sun go down on your anger. Praise. Use courtesy. Pray. 1 Peter 3:1--12.
From Overeaters Anonymous: " Your commitment to abstinence from compulsive overeating is the most important thing in your (physical) life without exception....
If you do not abstain from compulsive overeating and practice moderation at meals,
you may destroy your chances of finding health, happiness,
self understanding, and peace of mind."
Overeater Anonymous http://overeatersanonymous.org
www.overeaters.org and www.oa.org
Recovery from both alcohol and food addiction
Forgiveness is not necessarily fellowship;
Forgiveness is praying for the good of the offender and not wishing ill-will ( revenge ) ;
then moving on.
"from such turn away " -- 2 Timothy 3
"don't throw your pearls to the swine" -- Matthew 7:6
"Let go, and let God " ( handle that situation with honesty )
get embarrassed.....get help.
How porn works http://www.porn-free.org/how_porn_works.htm
How does a person keep oneself from impure thoughts ?
By reading and daily feeding on the Bible. Psalm 119: 9
What about drugs??
coke-cocaine, crack, ecstasy, heroin, marijuana, etc.
COCAINE: Taking freedom of choice away
"Why is this drug so powerful, so all consuming, so deadly? The answers lie within the brain. This drug is one of many that has the capacity to alter brain functioning and take an individual's freedom of choice away. It happens to be quicker and more efficient than others.
And for those who don't quit cocaine, one of three things is guaranteed to happen.
They will end up in prison.
They will end up in a mental hospital.
They will die.
The real tragedy is the number of individuals whose lives they destroy along the way."
http://www.mobar.org/law/cocaine.htm not working
See TEEN CHALLENGE http://www.teenchallenge.org/site/c.inKLKROuHqE/b.5492523/k.BD98/Home.htm
NARCOTICS anonymous www.na.org
"Soma, soma, soma " ---- from Brave New World, by Aldous Huxley
"Instead, it provides a mindless, inauthentic " happiness" -
a vacuous escapism which makes people comfortable with their lack of freedom.
Soma is a narcotic that raises "a quite impenetrable wall between the actual universe and their minds."
Many Americans drive drugged
Twenty-two million addicted
"The study, released by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration on Friday, finds that 19.5 million Americans used illicit drugs in 2002. This works out to 8.3 percent of the population age 12 or older
The survey found that marijuana remains the most widely used illegal drug,
with an estimated 14.6 million users in the past month.
"In 2002, an estimated 2 million persons were current cocaine users," the report adds. Of these, 567,000 used crack. Hallucinogens such as Ecstasy were used by 1.2 million.
"drug and alcohol addicts often do not recognize that they have a problem, the report said. "Over 94 percent of people with substance use disorders who did not receive treatment did not believe they needed treatment," the report reads."
"they repented not of their sorceries" Rev. 9:21
"sorcery" comes from the Greek word "pharmekia" (pharmacy) meaning "drugs"
JONAH : You can opt out http://jonahweb.org/index.php
American psychologists ban counseling gays to go straight
NARTH : for unwanted sexual attraction http://www.narth.com/
Nat'l Assoc. for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality
Agape-love for the sinner, separating from the sin.
Those who endorse prove that they love the sin while hating the sinner;
Those who hold forth the Word of Life prove that they love the sinner and hate the sin.
Biblical Truth = love
Speaking the TRUTH in Love ... Romans 1
Leviticus 18:22 "Thou shalt not lie with mankind as with womankind. It is abomination."
the director of the Human Genome Project, Dr. Francis Collins, said this: homosexuality is not hardwired. There is no gay gene.
We mapped the human genome. We now know there is no genetic cause for homosexuality
Leviticus 20:13 and 1 Corinthians 6:9-10
Isaiah 53 " All we like sheep have gone astray; We have gone each one to our own way."
Michael Glatze ( Gay activist ) leaves homosexual lifestyle -- July 3, 2007
Testimonies of Deliverance http://www.thebible.net/cnlglfg/
Transexual: Transformed -- Perry http://www.stonewallrevisited.com/pages/perry_d.html
Life and Liberty ministries
Christians persecuted for freedom of speech http://www.lifeandlibertyministries.com/
confessions..from WND mailbag Feb 28-2002
I was a homosexual until I was 28 years old. There was nothing "gay" about the lifestyle at all. I was with well over 100 people sexually many whom are dead today from AIDS. It's a miracle I'm alive.
Stephen Bennett Ministries http://www.sbministries.org/
" I mocked and made fun of "Christians" for years, yet it was a dear Christian woman who showed up at my door one day with a Bible, and shared with me Jesus Christ.
It was the Word of God alone which broke my 11 year destructive homosexual lifestyle -
one of numerous homosexual encounters (well over 100), as well as one of sadness, loneliness and pain. Today,
happily married for over nine years to a wonderful Christian woman with two beautiful little children, we truly have a passion and compassion to reach out to these dear homosexual friends." --- Steve Bennett
"But whosoever shall offend one of these little ones which believe in Me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.
Woe unto the world because of offenses ! for it must needs be that offenses come;
but woe to that man by whom the offense cometh! Matthew 18:6 ; Mark 9:42; Luke 17:2;
Ann Paulk, a former lesbian turned wife, mother and cornerstone of the Love Won Out ministry, appeared in a New York Times ad addressing homosexuals:
"Im living proof that truth can set you free."
The following day, a Washington Post ad declared,
"Were standing for the truth that homosexuals can change."
Phones rang off the hook, at both papers, Parshall said.
And retired football player Reggie White ran willingly into the cultural war front lines with his infamous speech to the Wisconsin legislature declaring homosexuality a sin, and abortion wrong.
"The earth shook, and he lost millions of dollars in employment from television and advertising," Parshall said.
"But Reggie said, 'Im a multi-millionaire in heaven.'
Rival ads said no one can claim an exclusive relationship with God. Wrong!
The Bible is the truth, and that sets the captive free."
There is a Way Out http://www.stonewallrevisited.com/pages/otherway.html
Nothing but the Truth http://www.worldnetdaily.com/news/article.asp?ARTICLE_ID=27836
Excuses, but no reasons --Dr. Kelly Hollowell http://www.worldnetdaily.com/news/article.asp?ARTICLE_ID=39489
MISSION: AMERICA, telling the truth about homosexuality http://www.missionamerica.com/
No Truth to being "born gay"
Camille Paglia, a lesbian activist has had the courage to boldly state what most homosexuals refuse to admit: "Homosexuality is not normal. On the contrary, it is a challenge to the norm Nature exists whether academics like it or not. And in nature, procreation is the single relentless rule. That is the norm. Our sexual bodies were designed for reproduction No one is born gay.
The idea is ridiculous homosexuality is an adaptation, not an inborn trait ."
Prophecy Central http://www.bible-prophecy.com/homosexual3.htm
What about Homosexuality?? EXODUS INTERNATIONAL
JONAH --Jewish same-sex attraction
NYC bans Leviticus 18:22
"Call to Courage" against freedom of speech
But "Scripture could not be clearer on this topic," she stated, pointing to Matthew 19, "which records Christ's words that people were created 'from the beginning' as male and female, and the two become one when they marry."
"This group is clearly operating by 'seat-of-the-pants' rules," Harvey said.
"They have decided to alter Scripture or disregard it for their own twisted purposes.
"By encouraging people to believe homosexuality is compatible with Christian doctrine, they will lead many people directly into harm's way,
Exgay Nomad links http://members.aol.com/exgaynomad/x_org.htm
"If we say that we have no sin, we decieve ourselves, and the truth is not in us."
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins,
and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."1 John 1:8, 9
WARNING : Chantix / Champix ( varencline ) kills ( causes severe depression )
"According to the ISMP report, varenicline again recorded the highest number of suicide/self-harm events of any medication with 226.
The combined total for the next two closest drugs reporting suicide attempts was 22% less (oxycodone with 89 reports and acetaminophen with 87).
Testimony of a former smoker http://www.his-forever.com/quit_smoking.htm
What about GAMBLING ??
Internet Laws for Online Gambling http://www.onlinecasinoreports.com/news_show.asp?id=1608
ONLINE MEETINGS Real Time
http://www.gam-anon.org/gamanon/index.htm and www.gam-anon.org
Internet Gambling; Forums, Blockers http://www.nomoregambling.com/
TESTIMONY Harold H. http://www.fivedoves.com/letters/may2009/linda58.htm
includes many many links
Gambling : A Global Scourge
The European Commission may take legal action against six of its member countries for restricting gambling operations like sports and online betting while permitting citizens to take part in national lotteries.
Ed: Where is their moral integrity ?
Europe's internal market commissioner, Charlie McCreevy, wants to take action against Germany, Finland, Sweden, Italy, the Netherlands and Hungary for either restricting the advertising and promotion of gambling services or banning the services themselves.
European Lotteries association
The association, based in Lausanne, Switzerland, represents lottery operators in 40 European countries. It generates 80 billion in revenue a year. About 30 billion is channeled back into state budgets
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Read the Word,
Read the Word,
Read the Word,
Read the Word.
..................................................by John Hagee
"Not by might, nor by power, but by My Spirit, saith the LORD of hosts." Zechariah 4:6
What about His Blood? hopetotheend.com/blood.html
From the Newswires:
Brits( NHS ) to deny medical treatments for "self-inflicted" problems
Ed : Is this active-addiction or past ( recovered ) addiction ?
Jesus healed all those who came to Him, "worthy" or not.
"People who are grossly overweight, who smoke heavily or drink excessively could be denied surgery or drugs
following a decision by a Government agency yesterday.
The National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence (Nice) which advises on the clinical and cost effectiveness of treatments for the NHS, said that in some cases the "self-inflicted" nature of an illness should be taken into account."
One group of primary care trusts is ahead of Nice. Last month three PCTs in east Suffolk decided that obese people would not be entitled to have hip or knee replacements unless they lost weight
Yesterday's report, Social Value Judgment - Principles for the development of Nice guidance, said no priority should be given to patients based on income, social class or social roles at different ages when considering the cost effectiveness of a treatment
The report said: "If the self-inflicted cause of the condition will influence the likely outcome of a particular treatment, then it may be appropriate to take this into account in some circumstances."
"There is no excuse for cash-strapped hospitals denying treatment to people whose lifestyle they disapprove of," he said. "Treatment decisions involving people's lifestyle should be based on clinical reasons, not grounds of cost. The NHS is there to keep people healthy, not to sit in judgment on individual lifestyles."[ Steve Webb ]
Ed : You can't find the word "nice" in the Bible, but you can find the word " compassion".
No smoking. Period.
Court may oppose mandated 12 step programs
Homosexual Politics http://www.bible-prophecy.com/homosexual2.htm#010621